I’ve lately had the opportunity to consider the possibility that I am being “negative” about various things, on several occasions, because I complain about many things. I’d rather think I am being brave 🙂
Today, I saw the serenity prayer, and was reminded it talks about that space. The serenity prayer says:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
When it comes to reasons for “being negative”, frustration seems to be a common cause. This frustration would be brought about by not achieving goals we want over an extended period of time. The two causes for this frustration, that the serenity prayer talks about are:
- not giving up on trying to achieve something that is impossible
- being scared, and ultimately giving up on, working toward something we want and could achieve
It seems that ideally, you want to complain about, and work toward changing, the things you can change, and be comfortable with giving up on things that we are not able to achieve.
Something hard to achieve, which usually includes most things worth achieving, will likely not be possible the first time we try. We need to be comfortable with failing, but at the same time, since many of those things are ultimately possible, we should definitely not give up on giving it a shot from time to time when we feel ready.